For one reason or another my screenshot keyboard commands are not working, but I had to share this message I got on OKCupid. (Yes, I still have one. Yes, he knows- it’s open for the ladies! And ladies only!)
Anyway, this not lady messaged me with this:
"Lol Random YES i know,so dont feel offended, but If you were dared to give someone a golden shower and you got $10, 000 for doing it, Would you chug water and do it? Say eww no. Or slap them? Or probably feel offended for being asked?"
Well, at least it’s better than the other “hey you seem cool” messages, I guess.
Depression is lifting, but now I can’t sleep. Worried about possible manic episode, especially with a very big trip looming overhead. Klonopin and Abilify, please help a sista out.
ugh. depression is hitting hard this season. I’ve got everything I could ever want, and I am happy with what I have, but damn…. it hurts.
Why is the blame for romanticizing mental illness lodged at teenage girls documenting/trying to cope with their struggles with mental illness and not grown men who make movies about how medication is evil and schizophrenia is magic powers.
January Cure: January 17-19
January 17-19: Bring home your weekly flowers, clean your bedroom, organize your clothes closet and dresser
• Pick up and display your weekly flowers.
My potted ones are still doing just fine.
• Give your bedroom a good, deep clean. This should be a very thorough job. The aim is to rid the room of as much dust and potential allergens as possible. Here is a sample guideline deep clean plan:
- Pick up and put away all clothes, books and belongings
• Declutter surfaces (remove change, jewelry, etc and put in proper places)
• Strip the bed
• Launder all bedding, including mattress and pillow covers
• Flip and/or rotate the mattress
• Vacuum out the closet
• Vacuum curtains with brush attachment and/or clean blinds
• Clean windows and mirrors
• Dust all surfaces and wipe down light switches, fixtures and ceiling fan
• Push aside the bed, side tables and dressers and vacuum/clean under them
• Remake the bed
• Enjoy a sound sleep in your freshly cleaned room!
• Do a closet and dresser organizing sweep and purge. (Filling up that outbox!)
January Cure: January 13, 14, 15, 16
January 13: Plan a Get-Together for the Weekend of January 31 - February 2
Choose a date and time for a get-together at your home on the weekend of January 31 - February 2 (or whatever date is best for your schedule near the start of February). Make up a guest list and send out the invites - paper orelectronic is fine, just make sure you get going on the invites TODAY and get them out ASAP.
Nothing fancy for me here. I split my time at home and at boyfriend’s place about evenly. I’ll have some Southwestern friends come and chat with me. That’s about it.
January 14: Create a Landing Strip or Re-Organize One You Already Have
Create a Landing Strip and Start Using it
The first two parts of the “healthy home filter”, the door mat and hooks (or proper, usable space in a coat closet) are self-explanatory. The landing strip, is also fairly straightforward, but very important to maintaining your “Cure” organization in the future. It doesn’t need to be a large area, nor does it need to be fancy. What it does need to be is functional. Set up a spot or hook for your keys, a bowl or container for change and your wallet on a surface (like a small side table) to sort the mail and other items (newspapers, books, magazines, purchases) as they come in. Two other super helpful and nice components to add to your landing strip area are a small wastebasket/recycling bin to hold your discarded incoming stuff to be recycled and a mirror for last minute checkups on your lovely smile and fashionable attire. :)
Your goal here is to create a space that you’ll want to really use each time you come in to your home to sort through the stuff you’re carrying in your bags, pockets and hands upon arrival, so you stay ahead of the mail, bills and items coming in to your home and also, have smoother sailing on your way out.
Once you’ve set up your landing strip, use it every time you come home. Here is a sample walk through of the process, which just takes a few minutes but reduces both stress and clutter exponentially, as it becomes a habit:
As you arrive home, hang your coat, put your keys and wallet in their spots and take off your shoes. Empty the things out of your bags that you won’t need to take with you when leaving next time and hang your bags.
At the landing strip area, sort through your mail and immediately toss or recycle what you do not need. Here is a sample classification of what needs attention and how to manage it:
Important Mail: to be set aside in the proper spot right now to be dealt with ASAP, so they are cleared out of the way and off of your to-do list. You should make a dedicated spot for this mail that needs your attention and try and clear it on a regular, consistent basis to stay ahead of the game.
a. Personal letters and business/school correspondence
c. Event announcements you will attend and need to rsvp to and add to schedule
Important Items: to be put in the proper spot right now so you can enjoy them right away and not have a pile up.
a. The magazines or periodicals you will actually read this week and any catalogs you really enjoy taking a look through.
b. The contents of any packages that have been delivered. Open immediately and put the packaging in the recycling bin.
Not Important Mail: to be diverted to the recycling bin (or in the case of magazines that you are going to pass on, to the outbox) immediately.
a. Introductory offers
b. All other Catalogs
c. Magazines or periodicals that you are finished with
d. Advertisements and Junk Mail
Once the mail, reading material and items from delivered packages are sorted, put away anything else you’ve brought home: groceries, purchases, empty lunch containers, dry cleaning, etc.
This will just take a few minutes when you arrive home. As you finish each time, take a moment to focus on the fact that now you can relax and fully enjoy your organized home, knowing that nothing that needs attention is piling up and that everything you need for your next trip out into the world is right where you need it, easily found and ready to go!
I’m not about to re-organize the entryway of the apartment I’m paying rent for, because I share it with two boys who won’t keep it clean. Instead, I decided to make a landing strip for my second home (and the one I’ll eventually move to in Austin.) Hooks were already installed, so I painted my own doormat.
January 15: Try a Media Fast This Evening
It’s simple in concept but can be tough in the execution. This evening (or whenever your main block of “home time” is) take a break from television, computer, tablet and cell or smart phone.
Part of the takeaway of doing the Cure is having the experience of spending time in our homes in different ways, which helps us to find new ways to enjoy it. This media fast will shake up the routine a bit and give you a rare break from the energy of the outside world finding its way into your private space.
Maxwell explains one of the perks of there exercise well in the Eight Step Home Cure: “As you experience your home time without the usual sights and sounds to listen to, pay attention to how you feel. While you may find it uncomfortable and unfamiliar at first, you will inevitably find yourself with time that is unfilled and now yours to spend in new ways.”
This might be the hardest one yet. I haven’t been able to pry myself from the internet, partially due to my attachment to technology, but mostly due to the need for answering important emails this week. Will try this Sunday!
January 16: Put Some Time and Effort Into Your Goal Project
Spend some time on your goal project that you selected last week and move it forward, or even complete it, if possible.
Started cleaning the walls. Pictures to follow.
OH MY GOD SOMEONE IS DELIVERING ME TIFF’S TREATS